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Accept more, Judge Less

Shirt: c/o Le Motto
Coat: c/o Choies (less than $40!)
Pants: Lou & Grey via Loft (old), similar here & here
Shoes: BCBG (old), similar here
Sunglasses: Madewell (old), similar here
Watch: Marc by Marc Jacobs (old), similar here

I’ve been excited and nervous about this post. Excited because I’m really happy to share that I found a brand that I can relate to. Nervous because I would have to explain why Le Motto’s mission means a lot to me. So here we go…

Do you ever look at a quote and think “Wow, I really feel much better.” That quote doesn’t necessarily have to be deep, it can be something quirky like ‘Be Fierce’ on a day I feel less confident and all of a sudden after reading it, I feel confident. I love finding quotes. In fact, I am constantly pinning my favorites on Pinterest. It’s crazy how reading and hearing those words can affect who you are and how you feel. It reminds me of the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” But what if words do hurt? What if they start to affect how you feel each day?

As Tre and I started planning our future, I started to fear about what life will be like for our future kid(s). The last thing I ever want them to go through is the feeling of hurt. Let’s be honest here, kids can be brutal. This fear started to escalate when I would think back to what it was like for me growing up. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying my life was awful, but there are some bruises from the past that I wish no one would ever have to go through. It all started when we moved from the city to the suburbs.

First of all, I had to start over which is never fun.  I totally felt like an outcast. I thought this would pass because eventually I will no longer be the new kid. Unfortunately, it seems like these kids made judgements of me from day one. Since I was Filipino, I was immediately judged that I am foreign. They assumed that I should be associated with the foreign exchange students from Japan because I’m Asian like them. I would hear whispers that I’m weird or can’t hang with the ‘cool people’ because I’m not pretty enough. At first I was really hurt. I didn’t understand why people didn’t want to be my friend or why they would say such things about me when they didn’t know anything about me. I didn’t realize then, but I definitely felt bullied. This hurt slowly became resentment. All I wanted was to fit in and be like everyone else. I was constantly embarrassed. Long story short, it sent me to a dark place. I was constantly being hurt, and I rarely found good people in life. I started to put a guard up. I didn’t trust many people nor did I open up to others. It’s still a struggle, but as I got more comfortable with myself it became easier for me to find good people in my life and that makes it easier to open up. A lot of the positivity in my life is believing in myself and seeing certain quotes or words that remind me that life is too good to be negative. And I give so much props to Tre for having the patience and putting up with me. God bless his soul that he found goodness in me.

This is why I love Le Motto. Le Motto’s mission is to spread positivity by words. Words like ‘Live more, worry less’ just shows that there is goodness in life. Those meaningful words can point us in the right direction. I am constantly looking for positive quotes and Le Motto just nails it. This tee couldn’t be more perfect because it is so true. If people judged less and accepted more, there would be  less hurt people. All it takes is a few harmful words and that’s how bullying begins. With that said, 10% of Le Motto’s profit goes towards anti-bullying causes. I honestly commend this company for supporting these causes.

So lets all spread the love and share positive words to one another 🙂

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Comments

  1. What Would V Wear says

    I just love visiting your blog! You’re so inspiring, and I even more so enjoyed reading your story! Looks like we have a lot in common! I am half Filipino and got bullied a lot in school. I grew up in Germany and pretty much was VERY foreign to them. Anyhow, I think you are beautiful, inside and out! Thank you for sharing your story!
    Happy Wednesday!
    xoxo, Vanessa
    http://www.whatwouldvwear.net

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  2. Rachel Lynne says

    Thanks for sharing such a personal story… I'm sure it was hard to go through that. And kids can truly be AWFUL. I love Le Motto's mission too! Good for you for supporting it and this t-shirt is fab!

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  3. Joanna Duffy says

    I am so sorry about those awful experiences you went through. Kids can be so mean, and it's crazy how we never forget those negative times. But I love this motto and admire you very much for staying strong and spreading such a great message! xx

    lovejoanna.com

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  5. The Real Arnolds says

    Glad you shared. It's nice to have a brand/statement you can get behind. I have some of those bruises myself. I'm not sure anyone escapes childhood without them which is such a shame. It's important to spread this message! Love those pants. I usually shy away from that color near my face because I am so pale, but I love it in a pant!

    Amy Ann
    The Real Arnolds

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  7. Kiki Mincks says

    This post touched my heart. I'm so sorry you were bullied and outcasted because you were Filipino. Nothing makes me more angry than someone who stereotypes someone's ethnicity. I have to think people of all ethnicity are beautiful and it actually draws me to them. More companies like this need to exist. There is so much hate in the world I too have feared for when my own child goes to school. All we can do is raise them to be kind to everyone, even those that hurt us because inside they are hurting themselves. Way to spread such an amazing message! This is for sure my favorite post of your's to date. (:

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  8. Nicole Layne says

    Thanks for sharing! I can definitely get behind this motto and brand. I think we all have similar bruises from childhood (and adulthood in some cases) and the best we can hope for is to spread the message and lead by example. I love the braid you did here. You should do a tutorial and share!

    Nicole
    Nicole to the Nines

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  18. Jackie says

    Well, I'm sure it's obvious that I love your blog and style, but with this post, I really love that you shared a more personal story in this post.

    Kids can be so cruel, but they don't realize the type of damage they're doing at the time.

    Honestly, I can't imagine how you must have felt during those years, especially since I've always lived in an incredibly multicultural area. Toronto (and the surrounding suburbs) are SO diverse, that I think I take for granted how accepting most people are of others, regardless of background. I'm hoping that mentality continues to become the norm across the continent so kids have one less thing to worry about at school!

    Jackie
    Something About That

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    • Rach Dulay says

      Awww thanks Jackie!! Chicago in general is extremely diverse. Just certain suburbs are not unfortunately. Thanks so much for the sweet words Jackie. I really appreciate it 🙂

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  20. Karen Chung says

    Hi Rach!! Girl, this post is amazing. 1) that outfit? ahhh love it 2) the message is so true. We should learn to love people for what they are. Kids can be so brutal, but I'm sure your kids will be great ones being raised by you 🙂

    I just started following you on bloglovin! So excited to keep up with all your posts, would love if you did the same!!

    xoxo
    Karen

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