Jean Jacket: Madewell
Top: Bershka (bought in Spain), similar here and here
Sunglasses: Sunglass Warehouse
Belt Bag: c/o Moda Luxe (get 20% off with code RACHML20)
Wide Leg Corduroys: Topshop (old), similar here and here
Slides: bought in a boutique in Nashville, similar here and here
Finding happiness and joy can be hard. There can be so many things going on and in life we come across obstacles or life circumstances that can make it difficult to be happy and feel the joys of life. Sometimes, you even have to go through more challenges of life to even achieve happiness. I get it. But I also think as humans we may overthink and over analyze what happiness and joy is.
My Most Effective Method Of Choosing Joy
There is one method that I’ve always done that helped me find happiness. It has made it possible to see that choosing joy can be an easy option. I’ve used this method for years and honestly, it is why I am rarely comparing myself to others.
My most effective method of choosing joy is putting my blinders on. What I mean is I put my energy and focus on what I’m doing.
Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy
I believe that one of the biggest culprits of people not finding that happiness or joy is comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy. Remember that before you compare, everyone has a story and most of us are only seeing the exterior or a small part of the story.
I also have the mentality that if something LOOKS easy, flawless, and effortless, then that means it takes A LOT of hard work and time to get to that point. And we all don’t get to see the hard work and time unless we are with that person or individual every day.
In this day and age it is almost impossible to not see what other people’s lives are all about. Thanks to social media, especially Instagram. As a blogger, I am fully immersed in social media. But I rarely get envious of other people’s lives even if they are showing things I would like to have or doing things I would like to do.
Putting My Blinders On
My blinders keep me so focused on myself and checking myself on where I am. For instance, I would check if I met my personal goals? Did something good happen? Let’s celebrate my success(es)! And my favorite part is seeing how far I’ve come!
My blinders helped me realize I have a lot of good things going on for me despite my challenges (looking at you cancer). In return, it has helped me learn to celebrate other people’s successes too!
Now just because I have my blinders on doesn’t mean that from time to time I’d like to have something someone else has. After all I am human and it is important to feel your emotions. They help us get stronger, we just can’t let it consume and take over what really matters.
When I do get this way, I think about what I’ve done in my life. And I want you to do it too. Maybe even write it down because I bet you will be very impressed. It doesn’t have to be something extravagant. Just anything that you are proud of! And remember, we are always hard on ourselves. What we consider a small accomplishment may actually be a huge accomplishment to someone else.
Reason For This Post
I actually didn’t mean to write this post. However, this past week I’ve noticed on Instagram there were a few people constantly talking about how they need a break from Instagram because they either feel worse about themselves or have anxiety. To me, that makes me sad. Maybe because they don’t know how much they are valued. Social media should solely be used to be informed or inspire.
If you do want to take a break from social media, I shared these tips on how to ease into a social media break. I’m not a fan of going cold turkey. Maybe it is my experience, but easing into a change always seems to be the most effective. These practices are actually what I incorporated into my life daily so I have a healthy relationship with social media.