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Why I Dress For Me And Not For Others

Why I Dress For Me And Not For Others

Why I Dress For Me And Not For Others

Why I Dress For Me And Not For Others

Plunging Dress: c/o Nasty Gal ($35, I recommend sizing up, more details below why)
Bamboo Bag: Cult Gaia
Peep-Toe Sandals: Restricted Shoes, also love this ($49.98)
Bralette: Free People ($38, ‘Peach’ color), can also be found here
Earrings: c/o Sugarfix by Baublebar ($12.99)

I Dress For Me

I dress for me. When I put an outfit together, I think about who I want to impress the most, which is myself. Everything else is icing on the cake. I’ve always had this mindset ever since I was a little girl. I want to feel my best, so I will make sure I feel awesome when I look at myself in the mirror. Well, maybe aside from high school, but that’s a different story. Let’s just say there were many times I didn’t dress for me and I was dying inside to let my clothes be me. Ugh, high school when originality wasn’t cool haha…

The thing is, I’m very introverted. For those who don’t know me very well, they seemed very surprised because I have a blog. I guess having a blog is a trait for an extrovert? But in my opinion, as an introvert, it’s more of a reason why I have a blog. I can express who I am without physically seeing or confronting anyone. As being an introvert, my outfits are a way to get to know the real me. It’s like art, it’s how I express myself.

Why I Dress For Me And Not For Others.

The Layers

Back to what I was saying earlier, the person I most want to impress is myself because it’s how I know if I’m being myself. My clothes are the first layer of me. And if that layer is not me, everything else under that layer just hides, like my personality and confidence.

Have you ever put on an outfit that’s so good that you feel like you can conquer anything? Or have a go-to “feel good” outfit? The minute you put it on, you know you are your best. Isn’t it the best feeling in the world?! And it’s like no one can get in your way because you feel that good. I loveeee that feeling and when I dress for me and not for others, I get more of that feeling.

Why I Dress For Me And Not For Others.

I couldn’t care less if someone thinks my outfit is so basic, not cute, so last season, not trendy, etc. Because if I feel good in what I wear, what others think disappears. My inner Queen Bey has come alive and I’ll dominate anything I set my mind to.

The Inspiration For This Post

What got me talking about dressing for myself was when I was trying to come up with what to write for this dress. I asked my friend Suzanne what I should write about. I wanted to share this red plunging dress, but I was having writer’s block.  And she looked at the photos for a second and suggested that I should share about how ‘what you are wearing affects your attitude and focus and how a pop of color can bring brightness to your spirit and wardrobe’. And I nodded thinking that was a good idea!

Feeling Sassy & Confident

As I was typing out my thoughts about that topic, it led me to thinking about why I put on this dress to begin with. I remember feeling so good that day. I dominated an intense workout and then had energy to do one of Fitness Marshall’s workouts after. If you’ve ever done any of his workouts, he for sure brings out your inner sass. So my sassiness was shining through all day.

I was also feeling good about my foobs. I noticed how they have settled (thank goodness for gravity, ha!). I’ve gotten a hang of it and knowing what I can and cannot pull off. I felt daring that day, but not out of my comfort zone daring.

I texted Tre and asked him if after work we could take blog photos because I knew I was in the mood for my red plunging dress. Tre could tell I was feeling really good about myself.

Thoughts On The Dress

I love that this dress is made with linen. It looks heavy but it is so lightweight. I actually layered it with my favorite bralette (in peach color) because I didn’t have any fashion tape LOL. I didn’t want any nip action. But I am a fan of a plunging neckline. All thanks to Krystal of This Time Tomorrow. She makes plunging necklines look soooo chic.

Why I Dress For Me And Not For Others.

The Pizza Test

For sizing, I wish I went a size up. I wore a small and it zipped up fine, but the waist did feel snug. I definitely can’t be eating pizza in this dress. I’m a fan of clothes feeling looser than tighter just for comfort. I call this test the pizza test. I think about how many slices of pizza I can eat before my clothes feel too tight. The goal is that my clothes don’t feel tight for at least multiple slices. You never want to feel like you will explode out of your dress. So in hindsight, next time I shop at Nasty Gal, I’ll size up.

So there ya go. This is why I dress for me and not for others. I want to feel my very best every time and the only way that can happen is when I feel good in what I’m wearing and I’m the best judge of that.

xo RD

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Comments

  23. I couldn’t agree more with you that what you wear lets other people know what you are about! Not in a shallow way, like oh she has an expensive handbag or whatever, but like ok, she is owning what she’s wearing! Colorful outfits and mixing high end pieces with budget friendly items give me the most confidence. Also knowing how to highlight your best features while subtly hiding your not so fave parts is huge!

    And this dress looks amazing on you!

    xo, Sara

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  27. You’re seriously slaying in this red dress, girlfriend! And I love the plunging neckline on you. Something I don’t do often because I’m so insanely small-chested, but I think it might be time for me to experiment with it more! You’re giving me confidence just through this post!

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  28. Yay, introverted bloggers unite! I’m with you, I use my outfits as a form of expression!
    I adore this dress and the bralette underneath is a great idea for coverage (and preventing nip slips)!

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  30. I love this dress on you! The color is gorgeous. And I feel the same way about dress for yourself vs. other people. There is something so empowering about feeling confident in the way you dress and I feel like other people notice when you feel good in what you are wearing.

    Nicole
    Nicole to the Nines

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