It’s Our Three Year Wedding Anniversary
I can’t believe we are celebrating our three year wedding anniversary! It seriously felt like our wedding day just happened. That day was the best day ever. I would love to relive it all over again. Everything about it was perfect.
Within our three years of marriage, we have learned A LOT about marriage and love. I know, three years of marriage doesn’t sound like a lot (and I admire all those who have been married way more than we have!), but if you’ve been an avid reader of my blog, you know that a few months after we said ‘I do’, our main focus was saving my life.
No one expects as a newlywed that cancer would be part of the marriage and unfortunately, that was the case for us. We had plans as newlyweds and a lot of them were taken away. Even having the chance of trying to start a family wasn’t an option for us.
What many of you don’t know is that not only were we focused on my health, we were also focusing on my husband’s health. Have you guys ever experienced what it’s like when doctors don’t have any options? And all you can really do is hope? Hope all the bad news disappears or hope that this is all a nightmare and you will wake up eventually. The first time I had this feeling was when my Dad was about to lose his life. It was scary and an unreal moment. Every time the medical team came over to talk to my Mom, we were not sure if it was good or bad. I didn’t know if I should be happy to see them or not.
And the second time, was with my husband. I’ll try to keep this short, but when doctors aren’t sure how your husband got sick, and aren’t sure if there is a treatment that will work, my body felt heavy. For some odd reason, my husband caught a superbug that was resistant to the strongest antibiotics that exist and that could spread rapidly and become life-threatening (and had a high mortality rate). To make matters worse, we discovered his body had a deficient immune system.
I haven’t shared this before on the blog because this was husband’s battle, and I wanted to respect his privacy (he is now comfortable sharing this). It was something that was so hard for me to accept and took me awhile to admit. This was one of the reasons why 2017 was one of our hardest years. I’ve cried to myself at night wondering why my life with the most wonderful husband might be cut short. It was bad enough I have cancer, and now we have to deal with this. Why couldn’t we start our marriage the same way other newlyweds had?
Just Keep Believing
But again, I hoped. I hoped and hoped and hoped things would get better. Things miraculously got better with my Dad and I wanted the same for my husband. It was nonstop doctor visits for me and for him. But I kept believing in miracles. I wasn’t ready to give up.
Then we started seeing signs of progress. And oh my gosh, one day, that stupid superbug disappeared. Seriously disappeared. Doctors didn’t know how to explain it, but they were relieved. They had a potential treatment plan, but now it was looking like we may be able to put it on hold. Eventually, they felt comfortable the superbug was gone. I kid you not, how does a freaking superbug disappear? But it did. And we started to feel relieved.
I don’t want to get into too much detail about the process after, except for the fact that it was a process for the both of us. And now we are at a point where we know we can’t control anything that may happen, but we are happy. We have each other. We learned to enjoy every bit of life. And this is why our three year wedding anniversary is such a monumental moment for us. We can actually picture ourselves living like newlyweds and can begin living like newlyweds. It may have taken three years, but we are grateful for where we are in life. We know that life will continue to throw challenges at us, but we will face them.
So this is why our three year wedding anniversary feels like such a milestone. We are ready to live our newlywed life! So excited that we are living our very best life. And I can’t wait to celebrate many anniversaries with my husband. I love you Tre!