Originally, I wasn’t going to about how everyone has a battle. Honestly, it didn’t come to mind at all. At first, I wanted to talk about this Gal Meets Glam dress, the ‘Jessie’. I do love Julia’s collection. So for those who are curious, the dress fits true to size and I’m wearing a size 4. But something has changed and it has a lot to do with when we decided to go out and take some photos of this outfit.
While we were in the middle of taking photos a man walking his two dogs (they were so cute!!) was passing by. He walked right past us and then turned around and walked up to Tre.
- Man: “What type of Canon?”
- Tre: “Oh it is a Canon 80D.”
- Man: ‘The reason I asked is because I’m a photographer and I shoot with Canon and couldn’t help but ask. I get interested when I see someone taking photos other than an iPhone’.
- He then politely asked us what we were doing.
- Tre: “My wife is fashion blogger.” He asks us if we were doing this as a hobby or school project. Side note: Everyone thinks Tre and I are 20 years old. Not going to lie, I am so loving it haha. We then both proceed to say we are a lot older than we look.
- Man: “That’s so cool. I spotted a fashion blogger the other day, she’s from Wisconsin, and she was taking photos with her iPhone. So I decided to shoot with my camera for her.” Tre and I told him that that was so nice of him. And then he showed us his work. We were both in awe. He was very talented and has a good eye. We noticed how he was able to capture emotions in the photos. Seriously, amazing. He then asks me what I talk about in my blog.
I explained to him that it is mainly about outfits and how I style them and also I share my experience with cancer. When he heard cancer he gave me the ‘how’ look without saying a word and I explained to him that a couple years ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer.
Everyone Has A Battle We Don’t Know About
He looked at Tre and I and he said, “That’s unbelievable! A couple years ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I have metastatic prostate cancer.” My heart sank the second I heard metastatic. I didn’t need to hear the word ‘cancer’ to know what was going on. He looked at me and tells me he gets it. He understands my struggle. Usually with other people, I have to explain how aggressive breast cancer is with young women and the chances of it metastasizing. He knew my risks.
He asked me if I’m currently being treated. I told him yes but no longer doing chemo and I told him about my current treatment plan. He shared his and said he is on a new drug regimen and explained that so far he doesn’t feel any pain in his bones. He hopes this drug can keep it up and shares how he likes what he’s hearing about immunotherapy and he thinks it sounds promising. Then he apologized for taking up our time, and both Tre and I simultaneously told him he’s not at all. We were glad we were able to chat with him and spend time with his cute dogs (one is 9 years old and the other is 6 months – sooo adorable!). We told him again he has an incredible photography talent and hope to run into him again.
Let me tell you that if he didn’t tell us he had cancer, I would have never guessed. He looked well and happy. He genuinely seemed like a happy guy and it made me feel happy. The reason why I’m sharing this is because it kind of reminded me how most people assume everything is good with me. Including those who knew I was diagnosed with cancer, they still assumed my life is all good. In their eyes I’m “cured”. Which is the furthest from the truth.
It also reminded me that everyone has a battle that we all may not know about. It is not our business to know what every single person is going through, but it does shed some light that someone fighting something doesn’t have to show a sad face and that we should all be a little more kind in our heart. Get to know others and do our best to help others. There’s this quote I found and it could not have been more true, “When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that has changed them.”
Sharing this story ended up being a lot longer than expected, but it is a moment that I think will forever be engraved. I connected with a complete stranger.