I get asked often (more in real life versus through the blog) if I have made any lifestyle changes since I was diagnosed with cancer. My initial reaction had always been no. It’s not like as soon as I got diagnosed I decided to change my current lifestyle. However, I may have mentioned this more on Instagram than here (I think, I can’t remember?), but I am a different person than I was 2 years ago. Cancer does crazy things to you, but at the same time I think it has also made me a better person. I became more aware of who I am as a person and how I want to go about things. I’ve learned to be better at living my best life.
Therefore, looking back, there actually have been some lifestyle changes. It didn’t register at first because they were subtle changes that I made for myself subconsciously and it happened slowly. I didn’t actively seek these changes because I made these decisions naturally. I truly believe these changes have made me live a better life, a happier life, and just overall I feel more confident in my life.
I also want to mention that I don’t think I needed to go through cancer to make these changes in my life, but it definitely helped me prioritize what is important.
Lifestyle Changes I Made to Live My Very Best Life
Admit When I Feel Good About Myself.
This took me a very very long time to do and I recently just started to feel comfortable doing this. I was ashamed and embarrassed to admit when I thought I felt beautiful and pretty. I thought it made me narcissistic. It wasn’t until I went to therapy that I realized how powerful it is to admit when you love yourself. I think we tend to be really hard on ourselves to the point we lose what makes us great. So ladies, if you feel pretty and beautiful today, say it. Look at yourself in the mirror and go “dang girl, you look good”. It’s crazy how saying it out loud makes a difference to your confidence. I also think these 7 tips helped me love myself and my body more.
Be Mindful How I Eat.
The truth is my body can’t metabolize the way it did before cancer. Before cancer, I could eat a whole box of pizza (yes an entire box!), and not care. I trusted my body would stay in the frame that it was. Now, the weight gain is real. Being on hormone therapy causes me to gain weight. And it is not about looking thin, it is about treating my body well. Why would I fill my body with crappy food or eat until I can’t move when I could provide it nutrients to give me more energy, fight against the post-chemo fatigue and give me better skin? Now, this does not mean go extreme with your eating habits. I know myself, and I know I can’t cut out the things I love to eat. So I do what works for me. Because the truth is, food makes me happy! So I learned portion control, adding more plant-based food and indulging here and there during the weekend. It’s all about balance.
Blog For Me.
Lately, there’s this pressure in the blogging industry. Since more and more people are blogging, trying to capture your audience is difficult. So there has been a shift to ensuring your blog content is catered towards your audience. Don’t get me wrong, I love writing about topics you all want to read, but I also started blogging out of passion. I did it for me, and I still want this space to be for me. I want to blog whenever I want to and talk about what I want and speak to topics I feel comfortable in. But this doesn’t mean you all should stop reaching out to me on topics. If you have any ideas, send them to me (firstname.lastname@example.org). I just want to eliminate the pressure and still make this space fun.
Resigning From My Corporate Job.
Is this news to you all? I think I have been more vocal about it on Instagram. There are several reasons why I had to resign but first and foremost, it is to focus on my health. Money is something that can be replaced, but my life and time is not. Second, I outgrew the job. It no longer made me a better person or better worker and there was no opportunity to grow.
I think I realized I was ready to move on when I just got back from medical leave and a co-worker unexpectedly passed away. This person was a hardworking person and it hit me hard. It didn’t help I happened to find out my chances of being terminal that day. It freaked me out knowing that if tomorrow could potentially be my last day, I don’t want my last thoughts to be about work. That is not a great way for someone to live. I also had to consider the financial aspect of leaving. But after thoroughly vetting out what would happen if I resigned, ultimately, it seemed like the best choice. My team of doctors has noticed a significant improvement in my health and well being since I resigned and they couldn’t be more happy with my progress.
Listen to Myself.
It’s crazy how powerful it is when we actually listen to what we want or admit to ourselves what we really want to do. If I want time to myself, I give it. If I don’t want to do something, I say it. Time is precious and we should use our time on something that is worth our energy and effort. To me, that is happiness. I chose to be happy. It scares me to think about living a life where I’m not happy. What’s the point of living? I honestly believe I was given this life so I can be happy.
It’s Not a Big Deal.
I’ve learned that a lot of things in life aren’t as big of a deal as they seem. There’s no point in complaining if something is not right in your life, change something about it. Last Sunday, I shared a quote in my weekly newsletter that I felt couldn’t be more true.
“The 3 C’s in life: Choices, Chances, and Change. You must make a Choice to take a Chance if you want anything in life to Change.”.
I have decided to be more mindful with what I’m putting on my body. So I made a switch to safe beauty and use products that are toxic-free. I want to make sure that I’m doing my very best to treat my body well. I know I can’t prevent everything, but when there are certain aspects in my life that are in of my control I’m going to do what I can. Honestly, using safe beauty products has made me feel better about myself and I noticed a significant difference, especially with my skin. It’s much better and glowy. Perhaps, my body just needed some clean products?
So there ya go, there are the lifestyle changes I have made to live my very best life. I’m sure I have forgotten quite a few, but I hope this encourages you all to take a look at your life and see what simple changes you can make. This takes practice, but in the long run it makes you a better you and helps you feel happy and confident.